Well today is my vent day. After a long, stressful and tedious evening with the mother of Lukes son. OMG sometimes I wish I could reach down the phone and just bitch slap this STUPID women. Well as I have said before, after 13 years of trying to locate Ash, we found him 5 or so weeks ago, and have had some regular contact with him since. We came up with reasonable terms to get access and was in the process of filing for a Consent Order to go through the courts. Making it official. But low and behold due to a conversation in relation to friggen Ebay last night with Ashley, he gave us their username so we could look up there stuff that they were selling. OMG what a drama friggen queen. Apparently we have crossed the line, prodded him for information and stemming from our last email to get Skype on their PC so we can chat for free, the stupid BITCH wants to file for child support. Oh well we have no dramas with that and have said in the beginning we have no problems with it. But she said I dont want anything. But due to the turn of events, Ashley is desperate to meet his dad and really wants it to happen ASAP. So now mum has backed herself into corner like the
kitty and is taking charge like the snake. Hhhhhmmm.. Dont get me wrong, I totally know where she is coming from but really does she not understand that she is really going to f*k herself up. Anyway, my morning events have been long and exciting, ringing around for advise on what we need to do. I really dont think she understands the repercussions that are going to stem from all of this. So let me fill you in a little about the situation. When he was born she refused to put Lukes name of the birth certificate.
Mistake number 1 coming fair up her clakker like the snake, its going to bite her on the arse. DOH. Mistake number 2 she said she didnt want a long draw out court case because they dont have the $$. Hhhmm, well to get any maintenance she now needs to prove him as the father, not by just saying he is the father but provide some evidence like a birth certificate or have the good will of Luke to sign a stat dec to say he accepts he is the father. WOW, didnt think that being a super bitch (her) would pan out so nicely for us actually. By not signing a stat dec SHE has to go to court asking for a DNA test to prove his fatherhood. Hhmm Luke is pretty happy with that decision as he said "I wont pay until my name is officially put on the certificate". Fair enough.
So her no court case has now been created to a long drawn out court case. Mistake number 3, we were being so nice and kind with all the access stuff and was going to travel 6 hours to her to see Ashley instead of meeting half way, so that it wont disrupt her fucked up life and it would make it easier for her. Well changes are now being made, that halfway mark is looking MIGHTY ATTRACTIVE, and a few other minor changes to go with it.
HHHmmmm this venting feels great. So my stress and anxiety is quickly turning because for once in my life I have listened, mulled over the situation instead of reacting like a firecracker. Now I see the bonus to being patient and sitting back and letting nature and the universe to act as it needs to. I do believe that I am in for a rocky road but still at least I know we have done the right thing. Slowly does it. So my little poemy thing up top really enforces that for me.
Thanks for reading I just needed to vent it out there because there is only so much you can discuss in the confines of the home.
Well today is my vent day. After a long, stressful and tedious evening with the mother of Lukes son. OMG sometimes I wish I could reach down the phone and just bitch slap this STUPID women. Well as I have said before, after 13 years of trying to locate Ash, we found him 5 or so weeks ago, and have had some regular contact with him since. We came up with reasonable terms to get access and was in the process of filing for a Consent Order to go through the courts. Making it official. But low and behold due to a conversation in relation to friggen Ebay last night with Ashley, he gave us their username so we could look up there stuff that they were selling. OMG what a drama friggen queen. Apparently we have crossed the line, prodded him for information and stemming from our last email to get Skype on their PC so we can chat for free, the stupid BITCH wants to file for child support. Oh well we have no dramas with that and have said in the beginning we have no problems with it. But she said I dont want anything. But due to the turn of events, Ashley is desperate to meet his dad and really wants it to happen ASAP. So now mum has backed herself into corner like the 
4 comments:
Oh what a stupid woman. Good on you Rach for just letting her stuff everything up herself. Most definitely go for the "half way" drop off. Once you start driving all the way there it will be really hard to change it later.
Mine and the ex's arrangements look like serenity compared with the shit she's stirring up.
Good luck!
Yeah unfortunatly she is a skank and has 4 other kids to 3 other different fathers. And 2 of them have been taken away from her by the father, so if that is any indication of what she is like, god knows. So I class her as extremly erratic and kind of F*#kd up. Oh well some women were just meant to breed like rabbits and be arseholes for the rest of their lives.
Good on ya Rach,for rising above it all, and not stooping to her level! Just make sure the whole thing doesn't mess with your (weight loss) plans.
Love that quote...very grounding...think will have to write that one down!
There's nothing quite like a bit of impulse control. I always respect myself more when I think first, and behave second (which isn't always easy, I have to say). Mind you, the universe is really testing you on this one. But you're clearly rising to the challenge.
I also really like your poemy thing. Infact, I'm going to steal it and use to inspire me to ditch the bloody fags! (Btw, thanks for your insights the other day - I'm already running with your list-of-other-things-to-do idea, and the just-say-no-when-the-next-urge-strikes idea :).
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